giving up

It’s tough to see someone simply give up on themselves and lose all faith in their ability to thrive. When it’s a friend or family member, you do what you can to help, with the understanding that they will attempt to help themselves as well. In this case, my daughter won’t do anything to help herself and is willing to let my wife and I do everything for her. Part of me wants to let her sink or swim, but I can’t do that. I’m not willing to let her be without health care or let her be homeless or destitute, or even committed to a long-term mental hospital. She wants others to take care of everything for her, including her health, and she can’t or won’t understand that she needs to be a partner in this. Until she agrees to take some responsibility for her own health, I don’t know what else to do. I wish I had a better answer.

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2 thoughts on “giving up

  1. Meghan July 5, 2021 / 9:59 pm

    At one point, I was very much like your daughter in that I wouldn’t own my mental health problems. I wouldn’t see doctors, take meds, nothing. If she’s anything like I was, it’s going to take a serious wake up call for her to get off her keister and do something about it. But I think in the long run I’m better off having gone through that and come out the other side taking ownership. Keep bumping along. I can’t promise it’ll get better, but there’s a good chance that at some point, it will.

    • fishrobber July 6, 2021 / 7:43 pm

      Thanks. I think she has forgotten that depression lies all the time, and right now she is believing the lies. Hopefully we can convince her to try something new.

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