I’ve been reading a lot about ADHD lately, because my daughter’s case is so severe it is causing her much distress. We think if we can help her with the ADHD symptoms she will have a lot less depression and get back some kind of quality of life. We are trying to get her a diagnosis and medication so she can feel better, but it takes so long to see specialists. In the meantime we are rearranging work schedules and cutting back on the amount of time she spends alone, because it is increasingly bad for her to be alone.
The process of getting Nicole to feel better consumes every spare moment of my time and affects my mental health. My bipolar is still under control, but I also have ADHD symptoms which make it difficult to concentrate on work, especially when I am working from home and Nicole is being especially needy. When she comes upstairs and says “I’m bored”, I know that the next 1-2 hours of work have just flown out the window.
Right now I’m just trying to simplify things and concentrate on the immediate problems that need to be solved, and Nicole’s mental health is first on the list. My in-laws are also putting additional demands on our time as they get older and need more assistance. Other things like my own ADHD, mortgage refinancing, a proposed kitchen remodel, vacations, hobbies, and free time will need to wait.